I’ve been back and forth on the topic of New Years Resolutions. I’ve weighed the merits of having “resolutions” vs. “goals”. I’ve considered adopting a word for the year (“happy” and “discipline” are in the running, in sharp contrast to one another). I’ve thought about creating a list of things I want to do in 2014 (get a tattoo, save up x amount of dollars, take up running again, spend more time playing with the kids). I want to be more organized, make smarter financial choices, gain momentum towards achieving my career goals, and have more fun. I want to eat healthier, continue to cultivate my minimalist mix-and-match wardrobe, and take more risks.
I’ve looked into participating in challenges–a diet bet. Taking a photo a day for a year. Reading 50 books in 52 weeks.
But in the end, I feel like my heart isn’t in any of it. And if I am not motivated, and my heart is not in it, then I will have failed before I even try. What I find, is that when I start a new challenge I am all gung-ho about it. I exercise every day or I can’t wait to get out my camera or I spend hours online creating meal plans. But invariably, I get bored. I skip a day. Then two. I make excuses. And whether it’s on day 3 or week 33, I throw up my hands and decide it doesn’t matter.
Checking off the items on a year-based bucket list may not matter. Strictly adhering to a diet may not matter. Going out to a certain number of social events a month may not matter. But improving my life does matter. Forward motion is important. It’s what gives us a reason to live. I do not want to spend my days merely going through the motions, but nor do I want to put undue pressure on myself and end up feeling like a failure because I only made it to week 26.
So what’s a girl to do? Adapt. Grow. Change. Learn. Perhaps one of these could be my word of the year? And yet, they are the words of my life. I live them every day. I never stop reaching, dreaming, trying. I may give up on this challenge or that plan, but I never give up on being more, or doing better.
This is a stream of consciousness post. I had hoped that by the end of it I would have figured out what it is I am trying to say–what matters most to me, or the direction in which I hope to take my life this year, but no such luck.
What I want to be, is authentically me. The direction I wish to go? Forward.